I’ve recently started “seeing” someone (those quotes are there for a reason), and we played our first round of golf together about a week ago. The thought of competing against each other never crossed my mind. He and I would play on the same team, against my two coworkers. Period. End of story.
But a few days after our round, a colleague told me that she and her husband always play AGAINST one another on the course. “We’d kill each other if we played on the same team,” she says.
So what’s the right approach? Play with each other and risk a team loss, or actively root against each other? The varied responses we received when Golf Digest asked the following question (on Facebook and Twitter) suggests there’s no right answer:
Hundreds of you weighed in, and the slight majority of you say that couples should play WITH each other.
Let's say you're playing with your significant other and another couple. Do you and your significant other play WITH or AGAINST each other?— Golf Digest (@GolfDigestMag) July 10, 2012
@GolfDigestMag with. You always want to remain a team...and it can be a bonding moment— C. Franks (@Franks_23) July 10, 2012
Exactly right, Franks. That’s why I’ve always preferred to play with my boyfriend. (In related news, that "boyfriend" word makes me queasy.) Winning is fun and losing has always indicated how we'll be able to handle tricky situations. (Better to find out on a golf course than anywhere else.)
@GolfDigestMag Definitely WITH - I would much rather lose with her than to her ;-)— Martin Hansen (@_mth) July 10, 2012
You're a smart man, Martin. Clearly, winning or losing WITH her is much less painful than listening to her gloat or complain for the rest of the evening. Trust me.
- Steve Groner, via Facebook: "Nothing good can come from either scenario."
@GolfDigestMag depends who gives you the best chance of winning— paul burton (@cipherburton) July 10, 2012
- Jason Newsome, via Facebook: "Against.... My significant other is still a beginner, and it would be easier to beat her than beat someone else with her."
- Danny McCann, via Facebook: "Both will lead to a fast divorce."
- Polycarp Odero Ongadi, via Facebook: "The best way to go about it is to let the ladies decide. It will be wiser that way."
Ultimately, if you and your sweetheart play against each other, the car ride home will always be occupied by one winner and one loser. If you play with each other, that car will either transport two winners (success!) or two losers who can use their latest match to learn about one another and support one another. Seems like a no-brainer to me.